I Help People Discover Themselves Through Tantric Sex
3 min read | Jun 2021

I Help People Discover Themselves Through Tantric Sex

The practice has helped my clients intertwine the mind and body and restore the intimacy in their lives. 

Daisy / Millennial / Progressive / Tantric Sex Instructor

"Tantra" is a Sanskrit word that means “woven together.” Tantra is an ancient Indian practice that dates back more than 5,000 years. Hindu meditation practitioners use the sexual union of tantra sexology as a metaphor for weaving together the physical and the spiritual, humanity to the divine.

It is slow, non-orgasmic sexual intercourse. It brings together spirituality and sexuality and emphasizes the importance of intimacy during a sexual experience. The larger purpose is to become enlightened and find mindfulness. It’s not just about bending into strenuous positions. It’s about being close to your partner in a way that’s comfortable for you.

Individuals have the freedom to move and touch however they and their partner decide is best. Tantric techniques include breathing, yoga and meditation that then can increase sexual energy. A common misconception about tantric sex is that it involves wild, uninhibited sexual experiences. While techniques can open you up to new sensations, tantra is as much a mental and spiritual practice as it is a physical one.


Tantra Is About Synchronization

Before practicing and teaching it, I studied tantric sex for five years, which involved learning about the human anatomy, different bodily sensations and their impact on the mind. The practice makes one learn empathy, patience, mindfulness and curiosity. It turns those who practice it into adventurous explorers. 

Tantric practices start with two people facing each other, with their clothes on, gazing into each other’s eyes. The goal is to focus on one’s partner’s eyes to keep them intimately exposed. Next, one must synchronize breathing with one’s partner. Breathe in together, exhale together. That transitions into breath exchange, in which one inhales when another exhales, then exhales when the partner inhales, as though couples are breathing each other in. This practice needs to happen for at least ten minutes.

When I teach tantric practices to couples, what I hear the most is that it cultivates great sensual pleasure and a profound and loving sense of “dissolving into each other.” And though many couples practice tantric sex together, it also can be an individual practice.

These days, tantra is gaining popularity. Couples who come to me show a curiosity to learn about it, especially because life is getting increasingly disconnected. When the emphasis in relationships is on making money or raising kids, intimacy becomes a renewed goal.

Tantric Sex Has The Feeling of a Typical Orgasm

In sexual tantra, couples do the same process but with their clothes off. They have to sit on their partner’s lap and wrap their legs around their partner's waist and continue breathing exchanges, this time by caressing and kissing their partner’s skin. The key is to maintain eye contact and to continue to focus on breathing.

During this, there are all the feelings of a typical orgasm, but lasting for many minutes (or even hours), which leads to profound sexual and emotional merging. 

For individual movement, one lays flat on their back to let go of tension. As one breathes, they need to arch their back and lift up their pelvis, repeating this to create a rhythm to let go of stress and to start connecting to one's body and emotions.


Tantra Has Created Many Healthy Relationships

When people first meet, every date is an adventure, carefully planned for maximum effect. For wild passion, the most important elements are newness and surprise. Hence, it’s important to create a complete scenario that includes something new, something out of habit, something that stimulates both conversation and opens our bodies and hearts.

Couples tend to ask me a lot of questions during instructions. Their sheer curiosity drives their imagination and desire to unite their heart, body, mind and soul. I feel really appreciated when people share how this practice helps them maintain a healthy relationship. It brings them a sense of freshness and adventure, a sense of knowing oneself in a new way every time.

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